A First

So, obviously, when people find out I'm a surrogate I get LOTS of questions. It can be annoying. Because usually it's the same crap over and over: "WHOA, I could never do that. You're crazy! I bet you make a lot of money! Is it rude for me to ask how much?" (Yep, sure is, Einstein.)

It happens so often that I have pretty much stopped mentioning that the baby isn't mine when I am asked about the pregnancy by strangers out in public. I make up answers if needed and they're none the wiser. Every now and then DH and I will have a chuckle over telling people the baby isn't his and walking away as they stand there confused. Probably not the most mature thing to do, but it's funny as hell.

Aaaanyway. To my point. (I do have one!) Once in awhile I encounter someone who actually has two brain cells to rub together and can make intelligent conversation with me about surrogacy instead of popping off with a rude knee-jerk reaction. I love it when that happens. It happened two nights ago, at the oddest of places: a car dealership. By a - are you ready for this? MAN.

I'm acting so shocked because men almost never comment on my surrogacy and if they do, it's usually a confused, "Oh, that's cool" and a quick change of subject. Not this guy. We were in the midst of negotiating a deal on a new car (Toyota Sienna, holla!) and I *think* he was the one who handles the offers. He was in a suit and had an office and all that spiffy stuff.

So anyway, he came out of his office, told us congrats on the new car and then said, "Hey, I saw you have some bumper stickers on the old car, something about being a surrogate? I've never met anyone who has done that before." I told him yes, I sure am, and now he can say he has. I figured that would be the end of the conversation, but nope. He continued on with more questions. How did I get involved in all this? Do I have children? Is it my first time doing it? How did I meet my IPs? How often do I talk to them? Do they come to appointments? I answered all his questions and we talked for a good ten minutes or so.

Not once did he mention money, or how crazy I am, or how it must be hard to give the baby up, or any of the other ill-thought-out comments I get all.the.time. He was super respectful and told me how cool he thought it was, and that he and his wife are expecting their second in June. I'm thinking his wife is a pretty lucky woman to be married to such an intelligent and considerate man. It seriously made my day.

So thank you, random man at car dealership. I wish more people were like you!